Lent Letter #21

Dear Emmy,

My baby sister. You and I have an interesting relationship, right? You are, in many ways, my closest friend. And yet, we couldn’t possibly be more different. We are four years apart in age and I used to think that was so much. Too much. We didn’t have anything in common growing up. It took me a long time to realize that it wasn’t the years that kept us separate. It was us. We’re just very different people. We have always and still have very different ideas and interests.

And yet, we are close. I can call you anytime, just to talk. You can do the same to me. We can bitch to each other about our brothers (and there is no one else in the world who understands it like we do, not even mom). More than anyone else, you continually surprise me. It’s like I know you best and somehow am still learning you, all at once. I think I know exactly what to expect from you and then you don’t react like I assumed you would. It’s disconcerting sometimes, that shifting landscape, and yet, I love it. I know you feel the same about me.

We are complex and so is our relationship. But I think too often we get bogged down in what we should be or what we should think that we don’t take the time to really know each other. We’re learning though.

One of my favorite things about you is your loyalty. You are always on my side. I never doubt that. Even when we’re fighting, if someone else was causing me trouble or pain, you’d jump in without hesitation and stand up for me. Because you are always on my side.

As I am on yours. I don’t always agree with your choices, but it doesn’t matter. You’re my baby sister and I’m on your side. Privately, I’ll tell you what I think (sometimes, other times it’s pretty clear you don’t want to hear it, you just want me to agree….so I do that), but to the world, I’m on your team.

That’s the very best thing about having a sister. I can count on you like I can’t count on anyone else in the world.

Thank you for being part of my life,



(to see why I am doing this, read here)

Lentil Bean

For those of you who are A) not on Facebook or B)not friends with my mom on Facebook, I have a bit of news.

My beautiful sister and her sweet husband are adding to their family!

That’s right, I’m going to be an auntie again. They are expecting baby Lentil Bean around February 4 (which is my brother Nick’s birthday – so that date should stick for us). Stay tuned to find out Lentil Bean’s gender. Mom doesn’t want to know, but dad does, and mom got her way with the Tadpole (now known as Arionna); so expect they’ll be finding out.

My mom is hoping boy, thinking that would be nice for them to have one of each. I’m hoping girl; I wish Arionna a little sister to be best friends with.

Arionna, meanwhile, got the news when the rest of us did and was predictably underwhelmed by it all. Her parents deliberately kept it from her so she couldn’t spill the news to Auntie Livi when she spent the night this weekend. We’re all very excited. It’ll be good to have a baby in the family again, they grow far too fast.

Definitely stay tuned, I’ve no doubt you’ll be hearing a lot more about our Lentil Bean in the months to come.